Showing posts with label Personal Growth. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Personal Growth. Show all posts

Tuesday, January 30, 2018

Moving Beyond the Fog of Life



The other day I went for a drive - the three of us - just me, myself, and I.

I needed a reprieve.

I hopped in my awesome minivan, picked up a luxurious latte, and headed towards the neighboring city, hoping to see its Christmas lights still aglow atop the downtown stores and buildings in all sorts of glorious colors!

As I headed closer to the scene, all I saw was FOG. My heart sank. FOG? That's it?! I thought for sure I had missed it -- my chance to see the lights just one more time.

For a quick moment, I remembered how my phone alerted me before I left. There was going to be dense fog all evening. I did hesitate to go out, but I really wanted some time alone, so I forged ahead.

I continued through the thick haze with a sufficient amount of discouragement, but I hesitated to give up.  As I was about to cross the bridge into downtown, the spectacular display began. The lights were still up! My heart felt alive!

It's amazing how WEIGHED DOWN my heart felt when all I saw was FOG, and then how quickly my heart SURGED WITH POSITIVITY when I could see beyond it!

And this is the story of life...

FOG hinders us and distracts us daily.
  • Struggles in relationships
  • Lack of motivation
  • Health issues
  • Trials in our homes
  • Social media comparisons
  • Disappointing and disheartening news
  • Downward spirals of thinking
and more...

It, all, causes us to FOCUS on the FOG and FEEL defeated.

BUT if we can FOCUS on what lies BEYOND the fog,
even if it is yet unknown to us, and keep
HOPING and PRAYING and TRUSTING and MOVING
in the right direction. THEN we will experience more of the abundant life that God wishes us to have!

Are you bogged down by the FOG of life? 

Push it aside.
Keep forging ahead.
Have hope in your heart.
Trust in the Lord your God.

Hebrews 12:1-2
...let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles.
And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, 
fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith.



Sunday, December 24, 2017

Christmas - Where the Sacred Meets Reality


I am up this morning with a childhood anticipation. Today is the day our household celebrates. It's Christmas Eve, and our family is spoiled to share this day together, a day early. For years we traveled to both sides of the family on Christmas Day, so we chose to set this day aside just for us.

As I sit awake, with my Christmas lights aglow, I treasure the silence. I am longing for a fresh, hot cup of coffee, yet I fear to start the process of making one lest I awake the others in my home.

I am enjoying the peace of this morning, when my soul can be refreshed and my heart feels the peace and joy of just being alive, having a life with good things - even when life can be so tough at times.


I am reminded of the true meaning of Christmas,
when the SACRED meets REALITY.

"All is calm. All is bright." 

We sing those words with hope and with confidence, and it creates a very nostalgic picture of when Christ was born. It was a very sacred moment indeed!

However, we must remember, that Jesus - the Son of God - came to earth, a place full of heartache and sin and strife, a place full of less than the ideal many times. When He was born, the scene was not as pretty as we sometimes imagine. Our Savior was born in a stable, when his parents found no comfortable place to birth him and welcome him, and the arduous process of taking care of a special newborn baby took place that day.

And although the situation to welcome our Savior was a humble one, we focus on the glory of it.

Singing "O Holy Night", "What Child is This", "O Come, O Come Emmanuel" and much more puts our hearts in a worshipful, thankful, sacred mode where we allow our reality to become dim and accept the awesomeness of our God and His love for us.

I have heard various people say they haven't felt very "Christmassy" or that is just doesn't feel like "The Most Wonderful Time of the Year". Grief, relational difficulties, financial strain, and other pressures of life swarm us and fill our daily lives with intense struggle. 

YET, there is a Savior. There is a sacred moment when Christ came to earth, to display His love for His creation and to save us from our sins and help us in our dismal reality.

Merry Christmas, everyone! 

May the love of Jesus fill your hearts and home today!

For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given,
and the government shall be upon his shoulder;
and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counsellor,
Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.

Isaiah 9:6


Monday, February 20, 2017

Letting Go of Perfection - A Lifelong Lesson



"What is a weakness you have?"

I can still remember being asked this question during job interviews.

Of course, when you are in a job interview, you don't REALLY want the other person to know you have weaknesses, right? BUT we, all, have weaknesses -- alas, the question must be answered.

I would always tell the other person that my weakness was that I was a perfectionist. I figured I could get away with this one well. I could tell the weak side of this but also a good side.

After all, it is a noble and good thing to strive for perfection, to strive for excellence in all that we do and not settle for mediocrity.

However, striving for perfection means that
we could lose sight of some of the beauty that lies around us.


It may be hard to settle for less.
It may be difficult to start or finish projects.
It may be easy to get impatient or aggravated.
It may be easy to compare situations.
... and more.

Even as I write this post, I am struggling to be satisfied with "imperfection". My loving husband took my oldest two children snowboarding this evening, one of the last possibly good days to go since we haven't had much snow and cold weather this winter. Tomorrow my kids have their high school classes with our homeschool group, and I know that they will be home late, around 11:00 p.m. with some work to finish up for their classes.

My insides would like to worry and fret and get all tied up inside, but somehow, I have to accept this reality and know that life will continue to go on, as less-than-ideal as this seems to me.

I can get worried over something I have no control over, because it doesn't meet the image and standard I create
or I can accept the reality that it is and live with grace.

Once I get a picture in my head of how something should be, it is hard for me to break away from that, and this applies to my entire life - my marriage, my child rearing, my teaching, my relationships, and yes, even my blogging - every part of my life.

And step by step, I am learning, continually...


To let go of perfection.

To still strive for excellence but to accept reality,
with peace and graciousness.

Wednesday, January 11, 2017

Living with a New Year's Mentality - Reaching Forward to What Lies Ahead



How is your New Year so far? Is it going how you expected and planned?

When the New Year is about to arrive, we gather 'round, contemplate and celebrate, creating new resolutions. We are excited about the year ahead and are hopeful for what is to come.

As the days move on, that vision seems to wane, and we get stuck in the middle of daily life reality.

We need a New Year's mentality
to fuel us throughout the year. 

Paul wrote about his pursuit towards hope, towards the future, towards all that the Lord has for him:

"but one thing I do, FORGETTING those things which are behind
and REACHING FORWARD to those which are ahead."
Phil. 3:13

There is a lot of junk on this earth: disease, conflict, hatred, rebellion, disorder, death... Creation is bound in imperfection until that glorious day when Jesus returns!

And until then, we must work with all of our might and all of our mind to stay focused on good things, let go of all that hinders, and REACH forward with faith and hope!

I love this familiar verse...

Phil. 4:8
Finally, brethren, whatever things are TRUE, whatever things are NOBLE, whatever things are JUST, whatever things are PURE, whatever things are LOVELY, whatever things are OF GOOD REPORT, if there is any VIRTUE and if there is anything PRAISEWORTHY - MEDITATE ON THESE THINGS.

And that's my goal...

To keep pushing towards good and nobility.
To strive to be constantly thankful for my life.
To love the people around me.
To reach out to the needy.
To focus on the tasks God has given ME.

To make a way out of the miry clay of earthly dealings and the dramatic events of the world wide web and live the good and great reality God wants me to live!

Are you stuck in things about which you should forget?
Are you REACHING FORWARD to what lies ahead?

LET'S REACH FORWARD TOGETHER!

Let's live lives of hope, fixing our eyes on Jesus,
the author and finisher of our faith and of this Earth!

Wednesday, January 4, 2017

My Top Posts from 2016



Happy New Year everyone!

It's fun to look back over the past year and see which posts were at the top.

If you haven't gotten a chance to read these, check them out! And I plan to be on the blog soon with an encouraging word for the New Year!

Last month I did a giveaway for Andy Traub's Early to Rise Experience for Moms. If you haven't gotten the book yet, check it out! It could be a key to helping you rise earlier in the morning, and starting the new year on a better foot.

One of the highlights of my year was when my husband and I did the Whole30. I did a few posts with meal plans and also one that summed up our experience, as a whole.

A few well-hit recipes were:
A Great Big Tray of Delicious Nachos
Cauliflower Breadsticks
The Pioneer Woman's Brother's Tacos

At the beginning of the year last year, I did some posts about making time for important things. One of those things is to make time to take care of yourself! Even as this new year begins, I remember the importance of that!

A couple posts to encourage you to remember the goodness of God and treasure each moment:
As Life Unravels, Remember: God Gives Good Gifts
Motherhood: Why I Am Treasuring Every Moment

God bless you, and I look forward
to sharing 2017 with you!

Sunday, December 11, 2016

Giveaway - Early to Rise Experience for Moms by Andy Traub


UPDATE: Since I had posted this, Andy Traub communicated with me so we are giving away FIVE copies of his book. One from me, and four from him! What a blessing! 

Well, it's Christmas time,
and what better time is there to do a Giveaway?!

AND I have a neat story to go with the product.

A few years ago I submitted some work to Andy Traub as a potential addition to his book. He was writing this book for Moms, based on his prior book, Early to Rise, and this time around he wanted moms to contribute their thoughts. 

I had done his Early to Rise challenge in March of 2013 and I was excited about the prospect of reaching out to other moms with this beneficial information.

I submitted my work, signed the release form, and waited for the book to release. I don't remember receiving an email, and I checked back for a while and never saw the book come out, so I just assumed it hadn't. 

This week I had seen that he was promoting his upcoming book for dads, and I wondered why the book for moms never came to fruition.

Well, lo and behold, it did!
A couple years ago, eh hem...
AND sure enough, I am in there.
p. 134 to be exact ~smile~

The one unfortunate part is that my last name is spelled wrong, but it is a small thing to suffer for the opportunity to be published in someone's book. It is an honor and a privilege!

With that said, let's get to the Giveaway.

This book isn't just about getting up EARLY. It's about getting up EARLIER, but more than that!
It's about time management, self-care, vision-building, and lots more -- filled with many days of short reads to fill your heart daily.

A winner will be randomly chosen next Sunday, December 18. Then, I will send the book via Amazon Prime, and you should have it within a couple days. Best wishes!



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Tuesday, June 7, 2016

Our Whole30 Experience



Well, it has been a month since we have been off the Whole30 diet. I intended to write this post as soon as we got off the diet, but May is always one of the busiest months of the year for us as we juggle the end of our homeschool year, soccer season, music recitals, birthdays, our anniversary and other parts of life.

What is Whole30? A quick summary…

The basic gist for the Whole 30 is this.
No dairy.
No sugar.
No grains.
No legumes.
For 30 days.
For more specific details, check out the Whole30 web site.

Overall Feelings

Overall, I will say that our Whole30 experience was positive. It was very difficult at times, even though I did get used to it after the first several days. It still was hard to get over the feeling of deprivation and not look forward to some of the things I enjoyed eating.
However, because of the benefits we received, I would say the Whole30 program is a good option for people.

How the Journey Went


Week One was a difficult week, especially the first handful of days as we adjusted to our new way of eating. The difficulty of Week One led my husband to decide he would add his Dunkin’ Donuts coffee back in after the first week, and that is how he continued his journey.

Week Two was definitely the best week. We were getting used to the foods we could eat and had a lot more energy. We felt better, in general, and life felt easier.

Week Three. Hmmm… I thought this week would be fairly easy, but I was wrong. I didn’t feel great. I actually felt quite fatigued and around Day 20 my stomach hurt an entire evening and followed into the next morning. I thought my body was missing something and decided to have a piece of toast. I had one piece of toast and that seemed to do the trick. I know…. I know… According to Whole30 rules, I blew it… and so did my husband after the first week… and that means you START ALL OVER. However, I told myself that I would stick to it as best as I could, and I didn’t start over. I just kept going.
HOWEVER, I will say that even though this week proved harder than I thought, I also saw a good amount of victory. I hosted a tea party at the end of the week, and it didn’t even phase me to stick to my Whole30 eating.

Week Four. The last week was hard because we knew we were so close to the end, and we just wanted it to be done. We weren’t very patient, and the days seemed LONG. We looked forward to eating tacos and pizza and chocolate goodies.

Pros and Cons

Even though the journey was not a piece of cake (no pun intended), there were definitely many Pros of being on the diet.

Weight Loss – My husband lost 15 pounds, and I lost 10 pounds.
Renewed Energy and Stability – Overall I had more energy. I woke up feeling refreshed and felt less anxious and more stable throughout the day.
A Desire to Eat Healthier – Even now, after the diet, I have a desire to eat healthier. I have seen and felt how eating healthy makes me a better person, and I want to promote that!
”Glowing” Skin – I received remarks from people that my skin was “glowing”, and I could definitely tell a difference in the way my skin looked and felt.
Better Health – Most mornings when I wake up I have a lot of sinus congestion. I had much less of this during the Whole30. My body felt stronger and experienced less symptoms as a whole.

Some of the cons were:

Feeling Deprived – Truth be told it is just hard not to think about the foods you COULD be eating, especially when you are having a bad day.
Expense – Maybe I would get better at spending less money on groceries if I ate this way all of the time, but I was at the grocery store multiple times a week, partly because I wasn’t fully used to how we were eating to be able to plan well enough and partly because I needed to stock up on fresh ingredients again. Also, some of the ingredients we used: almond milk, almond butter, etc… are more expensive than their counterparts.
Time – Not only did I spent a good amount of time planning our meals for the week and shopping at the grocery store, I also spent a large amount of time in the kitchen. Fresh, homemade food comes with a price. Making salads and their dressings, having boiled eggs and cut veggies for snacks…. Basically cooking every meal from scratch and not being able to grab a bowl of cereal or eat out when life is crazy. It definitely takes time!
Very Extreme – The diet is very extreme, and to be truthful, we didn’t follow it as strictly as taught. For instance, the bacon I used was nitrate/nitrate free, and pretty good turkey bacon in my mind. It is what I always buy for my family. However, Whole30 says no to it because Sugar is listed on the label. It is very hard to find bacon without added sugar, and this is one of the things I chose not to make a big deal about. Also, the diet doesn’t want you to make smoothies or eat Larabars in general, but these are options we decided to keep for ourselves lest we became crazy at times.

What We Ate and Enjoyed

When we were on the Whole30, I did some posts about my meal planning. You can see some of what we ate there:
Day 3 and a Meal Plan
This Week’s Whole30 Meal Plan
Our Final Week

Some of our favorites:
  • Roasted Chicken with Mashed Potatoes
  • Sweet Potato/Potato and Bacon Hash
  • Lettuce Wrap Tacos
  • Asian Lettuce Wraps
  • Burrito Bowls
  • Beef Stew
  • Roast

How the Diet Affects Us Now

The Whole30 reminded me of the great value of eating healthy foods to promote a better life. We have always tried to eat fairly healthfully, choosing whole grains, fresh foods, quality meats, etc., but the Whole30 made me realize I have only scratched the surface.

The foods and recipes I have come across have broadened my horizon and stretched me. I continue to glean and grow and seek to make healthy, fresh foods for my family.

Now I am, all the more, trying to incorporate more veggies, protein, and better sweet substitutes into our weekly food choices. I am still trying to figure out exactly what works for us. It is a journey.

Thursday, March 31, 2016

Life is Worth Living, Just Because HE LIVES!



The past week or two the circumstances of life were weighing heavily on my heart, and not just my own life’s circumstances but others that I know and the world at large.

Especially with Easter approaching last week, this well-known song started running through my head:

Because He lives I can face tomorrow.
Because He lives all fear is gone.
Because I know He holds the future.
And life is worth the living, just because He lives.


I realized that I was placing so much of my focus on circumstances, the tangible messes and frustrations of life, rather than focusing on Jesus in the midst of these situations – what He could do and the goodness that still existed in my life and others’ lives because of Him, regardless of the disappointments and sorrows.

As I started to fix my gaze on the resurrection of Jesus, I reminded myself that it is because of Him that we can live in this world of imperfection and be victorious, having hope, joy, and peace.

Jesus Came. Served. Suffered. Died.
And then rose again – all for us!
His love for us is great, and He lives!
His love is current!


Because He lives, we CAN face tomorrow.

There’s no need for us to worry about what is to come. The present has enough worries of its own, and we can’t add anything to our lives by worrying. (Matthew 6:34)

Because He lives, all fear is gone.

Perfect love casts out fear, and God’s love is perfect. We know God and believe in His love for us and abide in Him. There is no need for us to fear. He loves us! (1 John 4:16-19)

Because we know HE holds the future.

No matter what happens here on earth, God holds the future. He has a good plan for us and for our eternities. He knows the end from the beginning and has the story all figured out!

And life is worth the living, just because He lives.

Life is worth living for no other reason than this -- God lives! He created us. He loves us and wants relationship with us. He desires good things for us. Simply to know and remember that God is watching over us and longs for us – that should be enough to make us want to live the best lives we can and give Him glory.

Have your eyes been fixed on your circumstances?

Remember, He lives,
and it’s all worth it just because of that.


For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known. 1 Corinthians 13:12

Thursday, February 25, 2016

Make Time to Care for Yourself



As a mom and even moreso, a homeschooling mom who is always on call, I feel responsible for a lot for my family: their health and nutrition, their education, their hungry bellies, their needy souls, their talents, their weaknesses, and everything in between. I wake in the morning, knowing that any moment can start rolling the ball of needs, demands, and inquiries. If I don’t intentionally start the day proactively with some time for myself, I will lose that precious time as my family waits for my love and service.

I have said to my husband at times, “Picture waking up in the morning to your boss staring you in the face, waiting for you to get to work”.

That’s how motherhood feels oftentimes. If I don’t rise before my children, soon enough they will be breathing in my face, waiting for breakfast and direction, possessing appetites and intentions and hopes for the day.

The day moves forward, and I serve and serve… Training, exhorting, encouraging, reproving, prodding, feeding, cleaning, driving, and tending to many needs.

It isn’t long before I realize that I need to be on my toes daily. I need to have my strength stored up and my ducks in a row. Well, as best as I can, and of course, rely upon the grace of God for the rest! Drier moments and seasons will come when we rely upon God to carry us through our days.

However, I believe we need to make time for ourselves
so we can make ourselves
stronger, wiser, healthier, and lovelier.

The blessed and sometimes unfortunate truth is
that our households are only as good as we are.

If we desire to have a clean house, healthy meals, happy hearts, a cozy atmosphere, well-trained children, hospitable moments, and thriving marriages, we will have to work hard to restore our strength and be filled up so we can pour good energies into our homes.

Taking care of our homes and the hearts that live there and visit is an immensely important privilege and also a huge responsibility. We should never take it lightly nor should we get to the point of despising the beautiful position God has put before us.

Taking good care of ourselves prevents burnout,
provides refreshment, and positions us to thrive.

There is no need to feel guilty about making time for ourselves, but everything should always be done with proper moderation. Too much focus on ourselves causes us to neglect responsibility and feel like we ought to live on an eternal vacation or merely feed our own desires. Too less of a focus on ourselves causes us to neglect ourselves and be susceptible to depression, lack of vision, sickness, fatigue and more.

How are you taking care of yourself?

Are you taking care of your spiritual self?
  • Reading your Bible
  • Praying
  • Memorizing Scripture
  • Attending church
  • Fellowshipping with the believers
Are you taking care of your physical self?
  • Getting enough sleep and rest
  • Eating well
  • Exercising / Adding movement to your days (walking, housework, etc.)
Are you taking care of your emotional and mental self?
  • Reading good books
  • Staying away from dramatic situations
  • Giving yourself quiet time each day or at least when necessary
  • Limiting social media and internet time
Are you taking care of your relational self?
  • Prioritizing and pouring into your marriage
  • Keeping peace and joy in your relationships with your children
  • Creating and maintaining friendships that are godly and encouraging
  • Finding a mentor, if necessary, to help you through tough times

There is a lot we can do to take care of ourselves,
and it isn’t really optional.

Taking care of ourselves isn’t about selfishness but about building ourselves up so we can be the best we can be for God and others.

What can you do today
to take care of yourself better?

Sunday, February 7, 2016

Make Time for Your Hobbies. They're More Important Than You May Think.



Writing this post feels a bit trivial at the moment. As my own household currently battles the stomach flu and the world juggles its own load of needs and concerns, hobbies hardly seem important. It feels like there are a lot more important things we could be doing: feeding the hungry, helping the poor, comforting the lonely, encouraging the disappointed, healing the sick… I can think of many noble, and menial, things to fill my time.

But let’s face it… Hobbies are part of our lives, or at least we want them to be. When I asked on my Facebook page what people wished they had more time for, hobbies were at the top of the list. Some of the answers were: quilting, crocheting, scrapbooking, and crafting, in general.

Although we obviously want time for hobbies, our hobbies tend to live at the bottom of the list, getting attention when “everything else” gets done. Some of us may even feel guilty spending time on our hobbies when we still have tasks that we could or should accomplish.

However, I have come to realize that our hobbies
actually play an important role in our lives.
Hobbies:
  • give us a way to relax and take a break from our normal, every day responsibilities
  • still give us a sense of purpose as we accomplish something that is more fun and less pressure
  • bring variety, beauty, and newness to life, a breath of fresh air that refreshes us
  • provide a way to connect and share our interests with others
Spending time on our hobbies opens an
avenue for refreshment, purpose, and passion.

When I write or work on my blog, I feel satisfied, even if I have only spent a short while doing it. I enjoy writing, and it is one of my passions, so for me to spend time writing is for me to invest in myself and in turn, the people and products of my life.

When our hobbies exist at the bottom of our “To Do” list, if at all, they appear merely as a dream or a hope of “some day”.

However, if we really see that hobbies can be an important part of our lives and have a desire to better establish them, why not make some goals for ourselves?

Teri Maxwell, author of Managers of Their Homes, sewed for a half hour every afternoon during the week. This amount of sewing led to “four jumpers, two culotte jumpers, two vests, two baby outfits, one skirt, putting ruffles on ten baby outfits, plus mending projects” over the course of eight months. She said in her book, “For me, the slow, steady progress and accomplishment is better than not sewing at all. If I did not have this half-hour set aside for sewing, I would not get around to it. Other urgent things would fill this time space. So at 1:30 p.m., I am busy. I do not plan other activities during this time. It is reserved for sewing.”

Jessica N. Turner, in her book Fringe Hours, encourages women to use the spaces of time – waiting for appointments and practices and the like - that are already in our days to make time for ourselves and our passions.

How can we make time for our hobbies?
- Schedule small amounts of time, a few times a week or each day
- Schedule one time slot per week, i.e. Saturday mornings from 10 to 12 when your husband can watch the kids.
- Use the fringe hours of your days – when you’re waiting at a child’s music or athletic practice, traveling somewhere as a passenger, etc.
- Strive to work on your hobby for a certain amount of time each day, week, month or year.

Remember: Something is better than nothing!
And if you make a goal,
at least you are striving for something.

Not sure what to pursue for a hobby? Consider these:

  • Photography
  • Scrapbooking
  • Cooking/Baking
  • Card-making
  • Sports/Outdoor Activities
  • Writing/Blogging
  • Crocheting
  • Quilting/Sewing
  • Reading
  • Painting
  • Playing a Musical Instrument

Think about your heart’s passion and interest
and make a goal to pursue the things
that enrich your daily life.

Monday, January 25, 2016

Make Time for God



In my last post, I encouraged you to make time for things that you don’t think you have time for, or things you need to have time for! Hopefully you have started to, at least, think about how you can make more time in life for some things.

One thing (person) you need to have time for is God!

Are you making time for Him? Are you setting aside time each day to pray, to read and meditate on His Word, to just be still and know that He is God?

It’s so easy to be caught up with living, to be caught up with the urgent things of life. When I wake up in the morning, my mind races. I think about what I am making for breakfast, the coffee and lunch I need to make for my husband, the long To Do list that awaits me… My mind is very active in the morning. It takes discipline for me to turn it off and just sit and direct it towards my Father.

In Luke 10:42, in the familiar story of Martha and Mary, Jesus said:
But one thing is needed, and Mary has chosen that good part, which will not be taken away from her.

Each day we, too, have a choice to make:
to choose to sit with God and hear from Him,
to offer our hearts before Him,
to learn from Him,to surrender to Him,
and to have our minds, hearts, and souls refreshed by Him.

It will not just happen. We have to force ourselves to sit, to open our Bibles, to pray, and to be quiet. It is our job to MAKE TIME for God.

The other day a friend asked me how I find time to have my devotional time with God. I simply said, “I just make myself do it.” I don’t say that pridefully or easily. I say that with the same flesh and struggles as everyone else, with the struggle of juggling time and energies and entering into the rush and scurry of the day, with the hopes of accomplishing much and feeling like I have made a dent in my never-ending list of tasks.

Within the last handful of months, I have really placed a priority on having my Bible time in the morning… even if I wake up late, even if the kids are up, even if I feel swamped… I realize how important it is for me to spend time with my God.

Obviously I have a luxury of being a stay-at-home mom, so my schedule is a bit different in that way. I can be a bit more flexible.

I encourage you to try to fit in your time with God in the morning. It does help set your day on the right foot. Wake up 15 minutes earlier with the intent of establishing a morning habit. If and when you fail, don’t leave out your Bible time altogether, find another time during the day when you can spend time with God.

If the morning doesn’t work, get your Bible out during lunch. Take a break during the afternoon or before you start to make dinner. Take your Bible with you if you will be waiting for a child’s lesson or practice. After dinner, before you browse social media and the internet, read your Bible. And if you haven’t touched it before you are ready for bed, open God’s Word and take a few moments to reflect.


Some how, some way, MAKE TIME with God your priority
by MAKING TIME for it in your day.

Wednesday, January 20, 2016

Make Time for What You Don't Have Time For



“I don’t have time for _____________________.”

It is a statement that many of us utter when we survey our lives. The load of responsibility, the privilege of opportunity, and the limit of time and our human selves fill our lives to the fullest. Margin seems inaccessible. The clock appears to move way too quickly, and we are left with a sense that we just can not fit anything else in or pursue some of our priorities and dreams.

Unfortunately, we sell ourselves short oftentimes. Yes, our schedules are full. Yes, we are finite. Yes, there is much vying for our attention.

However, life really is what we MAKE of it.

I took a survey on my Facebook page the other day to see what my readers wish they had more time for. Here were some of the responses:
  • quilting
  • crocheting
  • reading, for pleasure and for growth
  • scrapbooking
  • thoroughly cleaning out a computer room
Let me add some more:
  • reading the Bible and other spiritual disciplines
  • rest and sleep
  • exercise
  • time with loved ones
If we examine the lists above, we can conclude that all of these things contribute to our well-being. They, all, have to do with taking care of ourselves, giving ourselves well-needed breaks and rest, and fueling the passions and dreams we have. Wouldn’t you say that is pretty important?

The first thing we must realize when it comes to things we want more time for is that we have to MAKE time for them. If you evaluate everything you do today, you will see that you have established goals and habits that cause your day to flow the way it has OR maybe you, in a large part, have just “gone with the flow”. Either way, your day has been accounted for.

How do you want to account for your day? Do you really want to make time for the things you don’t have time for?

I will be posting more about this topic to encourage and motivate you to make time for these things that are really important in life.

Here is my current challenge to you:

Over the next few days, PICK ONE thing you want to do and set a goal to do it, even if it is only 15 minutes. Something is better than nothing!


When you have made goals and/or accomplished something, let me know! Catch me on social media. Email me at thecozynookblog@gmail.com. I would love to hear how you are moving forward and use your stories to inspire others.

Wednesday, June 10, 2015

Have You Planned Your Summer Yet?

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Each year summer seems to fly by so quickly. It arrives, and I’m already thinking about what is filling the calendar for the next few months. Finishing school, prepping for next year’s school, VBS, string camp, soccer tryouts, soccer practice, grad parties, weddings, church camp, etc.!

A third of June has already passed, and I realized that I better get my summer ideas down on paper so they become realities rather than just dreams.

Have you planned your summer yet?

Think about the following:

  • Which projects would you like to tackle? Cleaning a closet? Improving your landscape?
  • Whom would you like to see more often?
  • Which places would you like to visit? Local attractions? Parks? Beaches? Campgrounds? Other states?
  • What activities would you like to do? Biking? Canoeing? Running? Swimming?

Just today my mind was swirling with some ideas:

  • Go canoeing.
  • Plan a picnic.
  • Ride our bikes to the local ice cream store.
  • Visit one of the Great Lakes.
  • Go geocaching.
  • Plan times for my kids’ friends to come over.
  • Have friends over for an ice cream social.

And that’s just the fun stuff!

The possibilities are endless, but time isn’t!

Get busy thinking about what you would like to do this summer and make a plan!

“If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail.”

Sunday, May 3, 2015

How to Live a Less Distracted Life

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First, let me state the obvious. In order to live a less distracted life, you must get rid of distractions.

Think of what distracts you.

Facebook?
Other projects and “to do” items?
Your phone and its features, in general?
Circumstances in life?
Lack of focus?

Write down what you think is keeping you from FOCUSING, and try to eliminate those hindrances.

  • Make rules for your screen time.
  • Plan a time for that other project.
  • Hide your phone for a while.
  • Write down things that are bothering you or need to be done.
  • Concentrate on the task at hand.

Second, segment your time.

Establish certain hours or segments of time for various things:

  • homeschooling
  • housework
  • family time
  • errands
  • social media

If you set apart times for tasks and activities, you can keep your primary purpose for the present moment in mind while you attempt to achieve your goal.

For me, I am refining my own system. I need to focus on homeschooling during the major part of the day time hours during the week, planning chores for break times, evenings or weekends. Otherwise, the needs of the house start to invade my homeschooling efforts and things start to feel overwhelming.

Social media has its way of creeping in throughout the day. If you set particular times of the day to check your social media, you can try to prevent losing valuable moments to the web of the internet.

Third, keep a “To Do” list.

My “To Do” list keeps me in check.

When you start thinking about something you need to do, you can write it down so you don’t forget, keep rehearsing, or feel immediately pressured to accomplish the task.

When you get distracted, you can look at your “To Do” list to remind yourself of the things you need and would like to achieve to help guide you.

Lastly, set your mind on productivity.

When you start to get distracted, reel your mind and day back in and tell yourself, “Wait… I want to be productive. Stop this activity and get to work.”

Living a less distracted life is not easy in this world, but it is important for the well-being of our days, our families, our homes, and ourselves.

It takes a constant, conscious effort
but it is well worth it!

Wednesday, October 1, 2014

31 Days to Becoming Less Stressed, More Refreshed. Day 1: Embrace Change

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Do you feel stressed?

Do you desire to feel more refreshed?

To go from Point A to Point B requires movement. It requires CHANGE.

There’s a good chance that your current circumstances aren’t going to change overnight.

There’s a good chance that you will wake up tomorrow living a life similar to the one you are living today.

If your life isn’t going to change much,
then YOU must.

If you want to go from stressed to refreshed, you must accept the challenge.

You are the one who is going to have to change your way of thinking, your outlook, and your habits.

As we begin this month with a goal towards refreshment and revival, I want you to stop and evaluate.

Are you really ready for change?

Are you ready to do what it takes
to feel less stressed and more refreshed?

Take action: Get a moment of quiet to yourself and devote your struggles to God, asking Him to give you the strength you need to make changes in your life.

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Tuesday, September 30, 2014

31 Days to Becoming Less Stressed, More Refreshed!

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A while ago I saw the October challenge, a challenge that many bloggers are undertaking. The challenge, hosted by The Nester, is to blog each day for 31 days, throughout the month of October.
I had been mulling over the idea for a while and finally decided to go for it!
I am going to blog about STRESS. Yep, that big word affects all of our lives at one point or another, and it seems that it affects many of us continually these days. We do live in trying times.
This series comes from my own experiences, especially over the past couple years. I saw stress starting to affect me immensely, and this summer, I had a huge wake up call regarding my health (which may be another post some day).
Dealing with stress is a journey for me – a continual process that needs to be refined and performed. I see results, and that is the encouraging part!
It is my hope that over the next 31 days I will be able to help my readers in their daily struggles with stress and also get further along on my own journey!
It is my prayer that all of us will be
less stressed and MORE refreshed!

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Treasure Today for You Do Not Know What Tomorrow Will Bring

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Yesterday my husband received some startling news. His co-worker passed away. It wasn’t just the fact that his co-worker passed away, but it was also the circumstances of the man’s life that made it seem all the more surreal.

A few weeks ago my husband traveled to Indiana for work, just for the sole purpose of celebrating this man’s retirement. That’s right… just a few, short weeks ago my husband was celebrating his co-worker’s retirement, and now he is gone.

I’m assuming my husband’s co-worker had plenty of hopes and dreams for his retirement, just as his wife did. Unfortunately, this man’s life was “cut short”, and he is unable to enjoy retirement.

Treasure today for you do not know
what tomorrow will bring!

Don’t wait for tomorrow.
Don’t live today with regret and dismay.
Don’t wait until your kids are grown up.
Don’t wait until you retire.
Don’t wait for something else to happen.

Live your life fully now.

In the midst of difficulty and pain choose to live today with vigor and hope.

Love the people around you.
Do good.
Serve God!

“You do not know what will happen tomorrow, for what is your life? It is even a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away. Instead you ought to say, ‘If the Lord wills, we shall live and do this or that.’”   James 4:14-15

“Do not boast about tomorrow, For you do not know what a day may bring forth.”   Proverbs 27:1

Today is a gift that you have,
readily accessible at this moment.

Embrace today and live it the best you are able!

Friday, September 12, 2014

Tell Yourself This: “It’s Okay if Everything Isn’t Perfect”

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I have recently talked with a couple of moms. They are trying to “do it all”, but they are getting very discouraged when they are not getting it all done.

Their days are full but sometimes seem empty as they end their days with tasks left on their “To Do” lists.

They juggle ages and grades and needs and demands and feel like they fall short in many ways.

One day they excel at child training and earn extra points in the mom department, but their homes seem neglected, and they barely get dinner on the table.

When moms see another mom “getting it all done”, they ask, “What’s the secret?”

Well, let me tell you the big secret.

The big secret is that there is no secret.

None of us can do it all, perfectly.

There are way too many demands in life for us to get everything done perfectly without leaving ourselves high and dry.

You must give yourself grace, and a lot of it!

Work hard. Train hard. School hard. Play hard, and when the day is done, feel good about you and your family!

Don’t beat yourself up! Don’t strive for perfection!

Tell yourself this:
It is okay if everything is not perfect!

It really is. It is okay if everything is not perfect!

It’s okay if your house isn’t perfect.
It’s okay if your kids aren’t perfect.
It’s okay if your schedule isn’t perfect.
It’s okay if your “To Do” list accomplishments aren’t perfect.
It’s okay if YOU are not perfect.

All that matters is that you do your best, trying to please God as you do it.

Don’t strive for perfect. Strive for order.

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Monday, September 8, 2014

What Are You Thinking? Think About These Things…

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What are you thinking today?

Are your thoughts good, pure, and edifying?

Are your thoughts energizing you?

Are your thoughts drawing you near to God?

Our thoughts have a lot of power. They have the potential to weigh us down or build us up.

The Bible reminds us to keep our minds focused on positive things.

Think about what is
True. Noble. Just. Lovely. Pure. Of Good Report. Of Virtue. Praiseworthy.
Philippians 4:8

What are you thinking today?
Renew your mind in the goodness of God!

Friday, August 8, 2014

Quick Workouts that Will Help You Establish an Exercise Routine

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Disclaimer: I am not a doctor, medical specialist, or fitness expert of any kind. The information provided here is to encourage people to find exercise routines that fit their lifestyles, according to the knowledge and medical conditions they have. It is always wise to verify your exercise habits with a medical practitioner, especially if you have concerning medical issues.

Is it difficult for you to establish an exercise routine?

It has been difficult for me.

When I mentioned to a nurse at my doctor’s office that I had been exercising regularly the past month, she asked, “How do you find time to exercise with four kids?”

Yes, exactly! That’s what I have always thought… How in the world can I find time to exercise?

Well, just like anything else important, oftentimes we don’t FIND time, we MAKE time.

Exercise is important for all of us. It keeps our bodies healthy and strong, keeps our minds sharp, helps us cope with stress, helps us have a more positive outlook on life, helps us feel better about ourselves, and more!

Carving out a half hour at a time multiple times a week to exercise seemed a bit daunting to me, especially since I don’t tend to be very patient when I exercise. I want the process done so I can move on with my day.

However, carving out seven to fifteen minutes seemed much more doable, and that’s what I did… so far.

Here are some short workouts I have tried and actually like. They help me get moving, get my metabolism going, and get me used to exercising so I can continue to improve my exercise habits.

  1. The Seven Minute Workout
    This workout takes just that, seven minutes. It is fairly intense, involving 12 different exercises of 30 second intervals with 10 second rests in between the exercises. All you need to accomplish the exercises is your own body weight, a chair or a step, and a wall. You can get an App for your phone or you can find the exercises online, i.e. here.
  2. Fit Deck Exercise Cards
    I actually bought these cards for my husband for Christmas last year, and now I am using them. I have been using the BodyWeight category cards, but there are many others: Pilates, Yoga, Stretch, Exercise Ball, Senior, etc.! When I go to exercise, I simply shuffle the cards and then start with the top card, continuing through the cards until I have exercised for 15 minutes. You can purchase the cards through Amazon or check them out at the FitDeck site directly.
  3. Other short workout routines
    A long time ago I found these routines when I was searching for quick workouts. I really like the “Wake Up Routine”. It’s short and sweet and gets you going in the morning. There are other routines, like the “Quick Ten”, that are fairly simple to do. Check out the site for other routines.

For another good article about short workouts, check out this one on Becoming Minimalist.

Are you currently exercising?

What do you do and how do you
make time for it?