Love and Respect

On Wednesday nights at church we have been watching the “Love and Respect” videos by Emerson & Sarah Eggerichs.  They are phenomenal!  I would highly recommend them to anyone.  If you can’t buy them or don’t know of someone from whom you could borrow them, perhaps you could just read the book. 

The basic premise is this: 

Women and men are different, with different needs, different ways of thinking, different ways of speaking, different ways of understanding… different ways of living!  Women hear and see through pink.  Men hear and see through blue.  A woman’s basic need is LOVE, while a man’s basic need is RESPECT.  Our husbands need to know we appreciate them – their jobs, their opinions, their “solutions” to our problems, their strength, their handsomeness, their provision, and all they give to us.  They need to feel honored and respected.

We, women, can *not* expect our husbands to be like our girlfriends.  God did not create him to be that way.  We need to remember when we are communicating with our husbands, expecting from our husbands, and giving to our husbands, that they are just that – our HUSBANDS.  They are MEN.  They are different than we are, and that is a good thing in God’s eyes, and it needs to be in our eyes as well. 

I know I need to grow in acting like I RESPECT my husband, in private and in public.  I am trying and encourage you to do the same.

I wish you blessing upon your marriage!